Sunday, May 4, 2014

Essays on Journeys Part 2: Getting the Assignment

By E. B.

I left my nanny position for many reasons, but essentially because I didn't like how I felt when I was in that house. The list could start and go on and on, but if I were to pinpoint one reason, right now, I would say it was whenever my boss would say, "but that's what nannying/children/the world/life is/are/do." None of those things are a reason I do anything, nor is it a reason I should do anything. So I left, with the hope that I could find something better. And for the record, ANYTHING pays better than that gig.

It started with a need. I had a material need of money. I had a little tiny bit of savings, and had been applying and interviewing for the next job. I'd really like to be able to settle. To be here. My days of chasing things behind me. Build a life. Have a family.

As the days of rejection rolled on, I began to realize I needed some help. With General Conference days away, I added this need to my prepared list of things I wanted an answer for. Did I believe a general authority was going to say where I should get a job? No. But I knew that if I didn't ask, I couldn't fault the Lord by not answering. I asked, hoping and expecting Him to give me something to work with.

After the Saturday sessions I had all my initial questions answered...except this money question. I finished the sessions hopeful that Sunday would bring more answers, and opened my email to find a rather random invitation from my aunt in California to come work for a resort nearby her home that she had noticed was hiring seasonal help. Was I interested? Of course I was. I wasn't so daft not to realize an answer to prayer.

I did a little digging and realized there was more leg work to this answer. My aunt didn't know more about the job(s) than what she had initially told me, and California is a really long way to go for not even a maybe seasonal position. I felt confused--not a stupor of thought confused. Just confused. So I went to the temple, and I felt reassured that California was my answer.

I sent of my resume and a great cover letter and prayed and hoped...and nothing. Meanwhile other, really great opportunities opened up here, and staying here and working and settling down makes sense. California, as right as it felt, just does not make sense.

Here's the thing: this is not my first rodeo. Nor is it the first time I have picked up and moved based on feeling like I should be elsewhere. While I have grown spiritually each time, and have come away with a clear understanding of what I gained in said move, it does not look good on paper, and it makes it really hard to find a decent paying job. It also makes it hard to have a stable, healthy relationship.

Here is another thing: When I was 19 and seeking direction, I received the first of many strongly worded blessings from a dear home teacher, advising me that even Abraham wandered before finding eternal life. That is not what a 19 year old wants to hear, and then, like now, leaving where I was and the plan I had, did not make sense.

I fasted, wanting to feel sure about it. Following the fast, the resort called back, wanting more information on my availability. Even then, without a job offer, it doesn't make sense to me. And I told the Lord that. I told him I wasn't going. I was going to stay and try to make this work. Because that makes sense to me.

He made things really hard really fast at that point. I was plunged into a little hell of my own making, to which I came out tired and sobbing and a red, puffy mess. And also significantly humbled and chastened. I decided I needed a blessing, and in my raw and bitter, maybe even still bleeding state, my bishop laid his hands on my head and gave the word-for-word direct order that I should go to California. And the special reminder that even Abraham wandered before finding eternal life.


So, off I go. To California. Because the Lord told me to. A new adventure awaits!

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